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Unfulfilled Dreams

Good afternoon, Overcomers!

There’s no one look or reason for depression. For today, I want to explore this particular reason that could happen to anyone.

When you are in a position that’s not what you plan for your life or not interesting to you, you may experience depression. If you are constantly having the thought, “There has to be more to life than this,” there’s a possibility you could experience depression.

It’s normal and it’s okay.

Think about it. You went to school. You got the degree. You followed the plan that would lead you to your goals but you end up somewhere opposite to where you were trying to go.

Your dreams are unfulfilled. You are one “No” away from giving up trying.

Can I encourage you?

Don’t give up. Keep pressing. Keep trying. If you are like me, you’re not really excited about the stories of fifteen failures to get to one success. Without perspective and understanding the process, telling the endpoint is not really helpful.

I’m not going to tell you any of those stories. What I will say is “keep swimming.”

Keep researching. Keep your wardrobe ready. Keep talking to people. Keep asking questions. Keep applying for jobs in your field – even if it’s entry level.

You can do it. I know you can.

Create your own success story. You can do it!
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Work it!

Hello, Overcomers! How are you?

In this life of mental health, we tend to struggle with consistency. Consistency and discipline is so important.

For me, when I’m doing well, I forget that I have meds to take. I forget that I need to get out and get sunlight. I forget that I need to keep making positive declarations. I forget that I should get some form of exercise. I forget that I must continue to engage in things that contribute to me having good mental health.

I am the first to admit, you can be working your plan and still have “moments.” However, there are many times that the problem is that we’re not working our plan.

Even if you have to write a daily routine, stick to your plan. A deviation to your plan will clue you into the idea that something is off. We can be more proactive with our mental health when we have a plan.

Community – tell your plan to your community of friends. Allow them the space to remind you of your plan to help get you back on track. Allow them the opportunity to support you. Sometimes when you’re in the midst of a “moment,” you don’t realize you’re in that moment until it becomes some days and you find it hard to pull out of it.

Having a plan, and a community who knows your plan helps everyone involved to assist you. Also, ask your counselor to help you manage as new things come up. Utilize every resource available to you.

If you work your plan, your plan will work for you.

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I’d love to hear from you. What would you like for me to discuss?
How are you doing?
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“Default Settings”

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If you’ve ever worked on a computer or a cell phone and went to settings, it will ask you if you would like to “restore to default settings.” What is your life default settings? How do you respond to life? Conflict? People? Certain situations? Let’s talk about it.

I learned something recently. Pain & trauma in your memory has no time line. So until it’s processed and healed, it will feel like it just happened and you go back to that place often. Many even feel through symptoms in the body (stomach pain, for example).

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I’m learning, as I heal, to remind myself that it’s over. The past, pain, nor trauma has no bearing on who I am or who I will be. Trauma doesn’t diminish my worth.

Fight for your healing. It won’t come for you. You must fight for it.

You’re worth it.

Having said that, I am in pursuit of changing my “default setting.” I was talking to someone the other day and I was telling them how I usually respond to conflict-that it was my default setting.

Later, I began to think about that. I didn’t like it.

Don’t I have the power to change? Don’t I have the right to adjust my thinking, my perspective, and my actions? Of course I do.

I’ve added another component to my mental health. It’s call DBT (Dialectical behavior therapy). In my limited understanding (I’ve only been to one class), DBT teaches you coping and management skills. The major thing I’m working on right now is learning how to properly process anxiety. I am determined that anxiety will not run or ruin my life.

I believe that the undercurrent that produces anxiety can be processed and healed. When I say undercurrent, I’m speaking of the pain that is stored in your body. You don’t realize it’s still there, but it doesn’t mean we can’t heal from it. I often wonder where anxiety comes from because, in my mind, I’m not thinking about anything. In many recent instances, I’m having a good time before it shows up. In my mind, this is the undercurrent; a warning of something I need to be aware (but not afraid) of.

I’m not a professional, but I do a lot of reading and researching. I’m a thinker/over thinker. The purpose of this post is to give us another perspective that will hoped lead to answers and healing. And to hopefully have a better understanding regarding what I’m experiencing. It helps me to change my default settings.

No, I don’t want to be restored to my default settings. The default setting have not served me well. I am creating new settings. How about you? Let’s do it!

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Love, Hope & Joy

Hello all! I decided today would be a great day to share an excerpt from my book, Texts from an Angel. Enjoy…

Amy was so depressed. She didn’t want to bother her friends. She knew they were busy. However, after being in bed three days, her guardian angel, Hope, was flustered.

“I hate to bust your angelic wings, but what she needs is a little Joy. No pun intended.” Joy quipped.

“Oh dear heaven!” Hope slapped her wings together in frustration. “Here you are again, in my personal business.”

“You don’t have any personal business. This is all God’s business or did you forget? I keep telling you the Joy of the Lord is where strength comes from.”

“And we also know that ‘hope deferred makes the heart sick.’ That’s why I’m here. So go…” While Hope and Joy are arguing, Amy is holding a bottle of pills. She’s sick of it all.

“Ladies! Ladies!” Love steps in. “Stop it. You’re off focus again. Look.” Amy was pouring a glass of water and had several bottles of pills lined up on the counter. Hope and Joy looked at each other. They knew what to do. Before Amy could reach for the first bottle, a strong wind blew through her kitchen and pills and bottles were flying everywhere!

Conveniently, most of the pills flew down the drain. Amy was so stunned with what was going on around her she didn’t hear her doorbell ringing. Her best friend, Keya, was at the door. After ringing the doorbell for several minutes, Keya decided to use her spare key to get in.

Hearing all the commotion, Kenya rushed to the kitchen. “Amy! What’s the matter? I got your text. Why didn’t you tell me you were so depressed? I’m so sorry I haven’t been here.” Amy was still stunned as she looked at her friend.

“You got a text? I turned my phone off three days ago.” Keya showed her a text message that came from her phone. It read, “I love you, sister, but I can’t do this anymore. I’m sorry.”

After a long talk, Keya decided to take Amy home with her until her mother flew into town. Spending time in the nurturing warmth of a mother’s love would help tremendously. She would also seek counseling and formulate a safety plan.

A safety plan is a specific plan you set in place for yourself to ensure your safety whether physical or emotional. The plan usually includes coping mechanism, phone numbers, and maybe personal reminders for you or ways you can distract yourself.  

If you are ever feeling like Amy, please contact either of these numbers:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255
Or text: Crisis Text Line: Text RISE to 741741  

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This is an excerpt from my book, Texts from an Angel. You can purchase it at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QC2GD93/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_BKGPCbDK92FJ3

For a paper copy, email me at nicolesharonwrites@gmail.com

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Hey! Where You Been?

Hey guys!

I’m getting back in the swing of things. I’ve been out of commission for a while, but I’m back and I’m focusing. Instead of trying to write everything out, I thought I’d do a video. I hope that something is said to help you on your journey to healing and wholeness.

We’re in this together!

Blessings to you!

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You can handle it.

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You can handle being healed…

I was talking to a friend, and she said these words to me. “Nicole, you can handle being healed.” I stopped her mid-sentence. Wait! Ma’am! What you say?

So, here’s the thing. I have been on this journey to healing and wholeness. I’ve been asking God, what does that look like? How will I act? Who will I be? What will change?

Trauma, pain, sadness, low self-esteem, insecurity, isolation, etc. becomes comfortable when that’s all you know. It effects the way you view your life, your relationships, other people… It’s all a smoke screen. It doesn’t allow you to see life clearly.

Yes, it’s hard work. Yes, it is so uncomfortable. I admit, there is fear in the unknown. Who am I without pain? How will my perspective change once the negative thoughts that have become my friends are evicted from my mind? What will I think about? Who will my new “friends” be? (Can you tell I overthink?)

No one can give me the blueprint of how it’s going to look and, as much as I would like to know, the date when the project of rebuilding my life will be complete. Note to self: settle in sis, for the rest of your life you will be evolving, growing, changing, rebuilding – constantly under construction. Learn to enjoy the beauty of each season.

I think I will. How about you? Let’s make this resolve together: I resolve to go through my journey and trust that God will never leave me. I don’t know what the journey cost me, but I know the payoff is priceless. I resolve to stay in the fight. Though bruised and scarred, I will win.

I stand in strength.

Knowing God made me who I am.

He doesn’t waste His energy on anything or anyone that is not of value.

I can do this.

I will stand.

I will fight.

I am more than a conqueror.

I am an overcomer.

The pressure will not break me.

I will not be silent.

He created me for greatness.

I am whole.

I am prosperous.

The victory is mine.

I am an overcomer.

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“The Will”

Happy Monday, Overcomers! It’s a great day, yes?

In my normal fashion, I’ll jump right in. A will is a legal document that indicates how a person wants his or her money and/or property to be distributed after death.

We know that God has a will for us. We know that the earth and everything in it belongs to Him. We also know that He’s alive. He died, but He rose again.

Isn’t it amazing to know that God our Father has left us an inheritance that we have access to now, and He’s not dead!

Today I want to remind you of your inheritance. God wrote a will, and all you have to do show up to the reading in order to recieve it.

How do you show up? I’m glad you asked. Right where you are, in your home, at your desk, in your car or wherever you are. All you have to do is submit your life to Christ, read the will (the Bible), and ask God what His plans are for you.

Knowing that you have an inheritance gives your life meaning. It gives you something to look forward to. Will you commit to finding out God’s will for your life?

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.Jeremiah 29:‬11 MSG

May your Kingdom come soon. May your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.
Matthew 6:10 NLT

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The “Fussing Auntie”

Happy Tuesday, Overcomers!

Today, I want to ask you (us) to be kind to yourself.

The same grace and forgiveness that you extend to others? Extend it to YOU.

The same way you extend a pass to others for being human? Extend it to YOU.

Stop being your own hater.

Stop being your own enemy.

Stop putting yourself down.

Start building yourself up.

Start affirming yourself.

Start applauding yourself.

Starting telling yourself, “I can do it.”

Start pursuing your best version of yourself.

I’m wearing the “fussing Auntie” hat today. And while I’m fussing at you, I’m fussing at me, too.

I’m finished fussing now. (smile)

I want to see you win. I want you to have the best. I want you to be the best version of you possible. You have permission to live!

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Hey! Can I pray for you?

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Happy Monday! How are you? I took me a quick hiatus, but I’m back! So can I pray for you today? Yes? Good…

I pray for your Confidence – knowing that your identity is found in Christ.
I pray for your Healing – physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually.
I pray for your Joy – because the joy of the Lord gives you strength and endurance.
I pray for your Grace – God’s extreme kindness and reckless love surrounds you and be in you.
I pray for your Deliverance – because it’s YOUR inheritance as a child of the King!
I pray for your Freedom – to walk into your destiny. No longer bound by any negative force that will prevent you from progressing forward.
I pray for your Faith – that you not become weary in this season, knowing that God is faithful and never forgets your labor of love.
I pray for your Strength/energy – for the Lord shall renew your strength; you shall mount up with wings like eagles; you shall run and not be weary; you shall walk and not faint.
I pray for your voice – that you would not keep silent. That you will tell your story. Tell your truth empowering yourself and others.
I pray for every grave in your life. Every buried gift and talent. Every bit of low confidence. Every bit of low self-esteem. Every bit of hope that the enemy tried to bury. Every bit of love, joy peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness and faith that the enemy tried to bury. In the name of Jesus and the authority of the blood of Jesus, I speak resurrection to that thing. I call your identity out of the grave. I call your joy out of the grave. I call your destiny Out. Of. The. Grave!!
I speak life over you and in you.
I speak peace over you and in you.
I speak mental clarity to your mind.
I speak healthy relationships over you.
I speak the ability to make sound decisions over you.
I pray a new dimension of faith and trust in God over you. That every experience and every time you read God’s word that your faith is increased.
I pray for your ears that they will hear the voice of the Lord clearly.
I pray for your eyes that you may see God at work in your life.
I pray for your creativity that you will use what God has given you in such a unique way, that others will know, “Only God could do it.”
I pray that you will know that God loves you with an eternal, everlasting and reckless love!

In Jesus’ name, amen!

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Affirmation Monday

Happy Monday, Overcomers!

Today, I want to share some affirmations with you.

To create your own, think about the negative thoughts that play in your mind. Then, make your affirmation the opposite of that negative thought. For example, if your thoughts are telling you that you are unworthy of love your affirmation may be, “I am lovable.”

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