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You can handle it.

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You can handle being healed…

I was talking to a friend, and she said these words to me. “Nicole, you can handle being healed.” I stopped her mid-sentence. Wait! Ma’am! What you say?

So, here’s the thing. I have been on this journey to healing and wholeness. I’ve been asking God, what does that look like? How will I act? Who will I be? What will change?

Trauma, pain, sadness, low self-esteem, insecurity, isolation, etc. becomes comfortable when that’s all you know. It effects the way you view your life, your relationships, other people… It’s all a smoke screen. It doesn’t allow you to see life clearly.

Yes, it’s hard work. Yes, it is so uncomfortable. I admit, there is fear in the unknown. Who am I without pain? How will my perspective change once the negative thoughts that have become my friends are evicted from my mind? What will I think about? Who will my new “friends” be? (Can you tell I overthink?)

No one can give me the blueprint of how it’s going to look and, as much as I would like to know, the date when the project of rebuilding my life will be complete. Note to self: settle in sis, for the rest of your life you will be evolving, growing, changing, rebuilding – constantly under construction. Learn to enjoy the beauty of each season.

I think I will. How about you? Let’s make this resolve together: I resolve to go through my journey and trust that God will never leave me. I don’t know what the journey cost me, but I know the payoff is priceless. I resolve to stay in the fight. Though bruised and scarred, I will win.

I stand in strength.

Knowing God made me who I am.

He doesn’t waste His energy on anything or anyone that is not of value.

I can do this.

I will stand.

I will fight.

I am more than a conqueror.

I am an overcomer.

The pressure will not break me.

I will not be silent.

He created me for greatness.

I am whole.

I am prosperous.

The victory is mine.

I am an overcomer.

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ABBA

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Myself and a group of ladies have been studying the names of God. This week we are focusing on Abba. It means God our Father.

Too many in this world have never experienced the love of a father. Many may not know who their father is, or maybe he’s absent, unavailable, too busy or deceased. Maybe your father is great! Imagine that God is even greater than that! The key is to learn not to compare what we know of earthly fathers to our heavenly Father. There is no comparison. I understand, however. You have to remind yourself that God is not like any human that you will ever meet.

From Believe.com:

Abba means “Daddy, Father” – Abba is the most intimate form of God’s name, showing us His character as our loving daddy. He is the One who can be fully trusted, the One we can lean on, the One who cares about all that concerns us. Just as a godly father’s presence in our daily lives is one of protection, security, and unconditional love, the constant presence of our heavenly Father is what gives us the strength and covering we need for this life’s journey. This is one of my favorite names of God because in it He conveys His heart for each of us, as His children. He gives us the privilege of being called his own sons and daughters. He provides the way for us to call out to Him and the assurance, beyond a doubt, that He hears and will answer. In our most difficult to painful times in life, we can crawl up into the lap of our heavenly Father, and know that He is for us, and His arms will hold us secure. (https://www.ibelieve.com/faith/10-powerful-names-of-god-and-what-they-mean-for-us-today.html)

And so that we would know for sure that we are his true children, God released the Spirit of Sonship into our hearts—moving us to cry out intimately, “My Father! You’re our true Father!” Galatians 4:6 TPT

So when you’re feeling bad and it feels like your life is a constant storm, call for your Father. He will help you. He will comfort you. He will give you peace.

So, here is my prayer for you: In a world where fathers are absent, overly busy, overworked, stressed, silent, or just uninvolved…

I pray that you experience God as your ultimate Father. I pray that you experience His compassion, grace, and consistent love for you. It’s such a pure love that could never be earned or worked for. I pray that you will begin to experience Abba (God our Father) in such an intimate way that you will never view yourself or others the same again. He has plenty to say to you and he wants to be involved in every area of your life. Have a wonderful week! Blessings!

Tonight, at 8pm EST, I will be live on my Facebook page. Looking forward to seeing you there!

 

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I’m talking to YOU!

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God. Loves. You.

I’m asking you to read this declaration and take it personally. Say this to yourself. Breathe it in.

God’s love is not based on condition or on what I can do. I don’t have to perform for God. He loves me no matter what.

There is nothing I can do that’s good enough to earn the unconditional love of God.

He’s always looking out for me, always seeking me. I am a priority to Him.

There’s nothing I can do to make Him have good thoughts towards me – He already has good thoughts towards me and about me.

His love in infinite and unexplainable. I’ll never grasp the full depth of His love. It’s a pure, untainted, unblemished, endless love.

He doesn’t withhold His love when I mess up. His love is always available.

He’s the only person who knows absolutely everything about me, yet He CHOOSES to love me anyway.


Check out my most recent Facebook live, https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1801846973247216&id=172853770084028

 

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Nothing Wasted

Happy Monday, Overcomers!

Today is a good day, so let’s make the most of it.

I want to share about a book I’m reading called “Hinds Feet on High Places,” by Hannah Hurnard. I read this book years ago, but I felt a strong urge to pick it up again last week. Truth is, I don’t remember most of what happened, so it’s like reading it for the first time.

I won’t tell the story, but in the beginning of the story, the “Good Shepherd” tells Much-Afraid (yes that’s her name) that nothing he and his father makes is wasted.

This is what I want you to know today:

Nothing the Father creates is a waste; neither is it worthless. You are supposed to be here. You are loved. You are worth it. You are enough. God loves you.

Come on now, get up.

You can do it. Keep pushing. Your future is cheering for you!

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Affirmed.

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Hello, Overcomers! How are you? For the past few weeks, I’ve been digging into the word affirmed. I never really gave this word much thought. Nor did I ever contemplate its full meaning. This is what I’m tapping into on this journey…

The first time I heard the word “affirmed,” was about twenty years ago. I can hear her say it, “God says, ‘I affirm you.’” It was in the late nineties during Mrs. Serita Jakes’ first Woman to Woman conference. She made this declaration as she ministered. I didn’t like it. I didn’t know why, but I didn’t. It didn’t sound good to my ears – at all. Although the announcement knocked at the door of my heart, I didn’t know how to receive it.

Twenty-plus years later, this word is part of my daily affirmations. How “like God” is that? When I think of affirmations, I think of positive statements that I say over myself in alignment with what God says about me.

Wait a minute! God is saying something about me! I never processed the weight of that thought until I wrote it! WOW!! – – Guess what? He’s saying good things!

Let’s look at the word affirmation. In the Webster’s Dictionary, this is what it says:
-To say that something is true in a confident way.
-To show a strong belief in or dedication to.

I’m excited because affirm is a verb. That means it’s an action word. God is affirming me. He has affirmed me. And He will affirm me. In my past, I was affirmed. In my present, I am affirmed. In my future, GOD. AFFIRMS. ME.

What does this mean? According to the definition of affirm, He is confidently speaking the truth about me. He can’t lie, so whatever He says concerning me is truth. It also means He has strong belief in me. Not only that, but He is dedicated to me! He’s dedicated to His word over me! He loves me! According to Jeremiah 1:12, He is watching over His word to perform it! He’s performing it for me, in me, and through me!

Whatever God has promised gets stamped with the Yes of Jesus. In him, this is what we preach and pray, the great Amen, God’s Yes and our Yes together, gloriously evident. God affirms us, making us a sure thing in Christ, putting his Yes within us. By his Spirit he has stamped us with his eternal pledge—a sure beginning of what he is destined to complete. 2 Corinthians 1:20-22 MSG

For all of God’s promises find their “yes” of fulfillment in him. And as his “yes” and our “amen” ascend to God, we bring him glory! Now, it is God himself who has anointed us. And he is constantly strengthening both you and us in union with Christ. He knows we are his since he has also stamped his seal of love over our hearts and has given us the Holy Spirit like an engagement ring is given to a bride—a down payment of the blessings to come! 2 Corinthians 1:20-22 TPT

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“The Will”

Happy Monday, Overcomers! It’s a great day, yes?

In my normal fashion, I’ll jump right in. A will is a legal document that indicates how a person wants his or her money and/or property to be distributed after death.

We know that God has a will for us. We know that the earth and everything in it belongs to Him. We also know that He’s alive. He died, but He rose again.

Isn’t it amazing to know that God our Father has left us an inheritance that we have access to now, and He’s not dead!

Today I want to remind you of your inheritance. God wrote a will, and all you have to do show up to the reading in order to recieve it.

How do you show up? I’m glad you asked. Right where you are, in your home, at your desk, in your car or wherever you are. All you have to do is submit your life to Christ, read the will (the Bible), and ask God what His plans are for you.

Knowing that you have an inheritance gives your life meaning. It gives you something to look forward to. Will you commit to finding out God’s will for your life?

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.Jeremiah 29:‬11 MSG

May your Kingdom come soon. May your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.
Matthew 6:10 NLT

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Out of the Grave

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There’s a grave you dug
My emotions are buried there
My freedom of expression, my confidence
-buried in a grave you dug.

All in hopes to keep me silent.

I am angry.
I want, no, I need to hate you.

You live in a grave of manipulation and despair.
But I refuse to join you there.

And even though it’s taken a long time
to come out of the grave,
I can see the light now.

God’s hand is reaching for me.

“I don’t trust you,” I say.
“You men are all alike.”

But –
His love…

His love is wooing me
His love is covering me
His love is protecting me.

Stephanie Mills says, “I never knew love like this,”
but…

It’s God’s unfailing love.

His love is healing me.
His love is holding me.
His love is mending me.
His love is freeing me.

His love pulled me
Out of the grave.

Author, Nicole Sharon

He rescues them from the grave so they may enjoy the light of life.
Job 33:30

But as for me, God will redeem my life.
He will snatch me from the power of the grave.
Psalm 49:15

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Hey! Can I pray for you?

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Happy Monday! How are you? I took me a quick hiatus, but I’m back! So can I pray for you today? Yes? Good…

I pray for your Confidence – knowing that your identity is found in Christ.
I pray for your Healing – physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually.
I pray for your Joy – because the joy of the Lord gives you strength and endurance.
I pray for your Grace – God’s extreme kindness and reckless love surrounds you and be in you.
I pray for your Deliverance – because it’s YOUR inheritance as a child of the King!
I pray for your Freedom – to walk into your destiny. No longer bound by any negative force that will prevent you from progressing forward.
I pray for your Faith – that you not become weary in this season, knowing that God is faithful and never forgets your labor of love.
I pray for your Strength/energy – for the Lord shall renew your strength; you shall mount up with wings like eagles; you shall run and not be weary; you shall walk and not faint.
I pray for your voice – that you would not keep silent. That you will tell your story. Tell your truth empowering yourself and others.
I pray for every grave in your life. Every buried gift and talent. Every bit of low confidence. Every bit of low self-esteem. Every bit of hope that the enemy tried to bury. Every bit of love, joy peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness and faith that the enemy tried to bury. In the name of Jesus and the authority of the blood of Jesus, I speak resurrection to that thing. I call your identity out of the grave. I call your joy out of the grave. I call your destiny Out. Of. The. Grave!!
I speak life over you and in you.
I speak peace over you and in you.
I speak mental clarity to your mind.
I speak healthy relationships over you.
I speak the ability to make sound decisions over you.
I pray a new dimension of faith and trust in God over you. That every experience and every time you read God’s word that your faith is increased.
I pray for your ears that they will hear the voice of the Lord clearly.
I pray for your eyes that you may see God at work in your life.
I pray for your creativity that you will use what God has given you in such a unique way, that others will know, “Only God could do it.”
I pray that you will know that God loves you with an eternal, everlasting and reckless love!

In Jesus’ name, amen!

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Whispers

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Happy Tuesday, Overcomers! I know I’m a day late, but I pray that today’s post will be worth the wait.

So, I made a Facebook post a couple of weeks ago that I want to talk about. Here’s the post:

There’s a voice in your head that plays life a broken record. It says, “you’re wasting your time, so, why bother?” It’s so frustrating, right? It’s like having two people in your head. Meanwhile, the second voice is pushing you towards purpose. This voice is starting to be more influential than the other. It’s not louder, but the weight of the assignment is more influential and more meaningful than the voice that’s telling you to sit down, shut up and give up. Let the weight of the second voice lead you to your destiny.

It seems like the negative voice is always yelling at you, while the voice of purpose whispers. What I’ve come to understand is that when a person or situation is “yelling” at you, it is vying for attention or authority. See, the voice of purpose (God) is the final authority and He has no reason to yell or force His thoughts or intentions on you.

Furthermore, we have to decide which one to feed. If we feed the voice of purpose, we will learn to rise above the noise and chatter of negativity. I don’t know that the chatter of negativity will ever be silent, but it will no longer have any authority in your life.

Thought for today:

Have you ever been around someone who is so focused on a task that they don’t hear the noise and the conversation going on around them? Have you ever been that focused on something?

My prayer and my hope for you today is that you would be able to focus on your healing, your future, your health, and every good thing that life has to offer you. I pray that you will be able to focus to the point that every day you will find the strength and the determination to try again. And again… And again…

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Mirror, Mirror

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It’s Monday again, Overcomers! Did you have a great weekend? I pray so.

If you were in an abusive relationship, would you get out of it as quickly as possible? If someone were disrespectful to you would you let them know? Maybe have a conversation with them? Maybe find out if there’s a misunderstanding?

You’d make steps to remove yourself from an abusive relationship – especially the person perpetrating the abuse, right? So what if that person is you?

As we jump into the new week, I want to ask you to consider how you’re treating yourself. Can you sit down and have a talk with yourself?

What do you tell yourself about your future? What are you telling yourself about your worth? What you deserve? What you don’t deserve? When you look in the mirror, what are you telling yourself?

I want to encourage you by saying this: God doesn’t change His mind about you. His love doesn’t run out, and you are worth the fight it takes for your future.

Thought for today:

The last couple of weeks, I’ve felt like I was at war in my mind. It was as if the right side of my brain was fighting with my left. The right side was saying, “Go for it. You can do it! God put the desire in you to help others.”

At the exact same time, the left side was saying, “What’s the point? Nobody wants or needs your help. You don’t have anything to offer.” #sigh

While I was starting to believe that voice on the right, that left side was irritating me and I wondered if I was going to make it out of the day with my brain intact.

I woke up this morning deciding I was not going to be the one who continued to abuse me. I made a commitment to myself to treat myself with honor, integrity, respect and love. I believe God wouldn’t have it any other way.

Will you make a commitment with me today? To your future? To stay in the fight? To stay on the journey? We’re in this together.