Four-parts to Success

Good morning, Overcomers! Happy Monday!!

There are three important things that keep me together. Christ, community, and counseling. I guess you can call them the “Three Cs.” There is much conversation recently about mental health, so I want to talk about it a little from the medical perspective and share my conclusions while offering a little transparency about my journey.biopsyspirsocial

When I was in college, I took a lot of psychology and counseling courses. My plan was to become a counselor. I learned that our health, both physical and emotional, are biopsychosocial in nature (body, mind, community). What this means is that our issues in life cannot be attributed to just one factor. All three aspects of our lives contribute to our health. Lately, there has been another factor added, and that is the spiritual. This is based loosely off my understanding, but what I gather from this information is that our health, or the lack thereof is attributed to four things: physical, psychological, social, and spiritual.

What’s the point? I am glad you asked. The way I see it, it’s like a good meal. I was raised to think a good meal has at least three parts: a meat, a vegetable and a starch. Throw in some cornbread and a glass of Kool-Aid, and you’re set! Ha!

Okay, okay. So, here’s the point. During a difficult season, I had a setback. My anxiety levels were high, I was struggling, not resting, and eventually, cutting. For some reason, I had told my self that my journey was complete and I had “won the battle with mental illness.” Laugh. Out. Loud. For real? Who told me that? #sigh

Upon realizing what was going on, my first reaction was to get upset. How did I get here, again? Several things happened. Someone noticed that I was acting “different” and called me on it (community). Someone prayed with me (invited Christ into my situation). I received counseling which aided me in dealing with the psychological triggers and emotions I was dealing with, which helped me get some rest (not getting enough rest is not good for your mental health). It also helps to get some exercise in too, right?

You see how all that works together? We need them all. Gone are the days where people are afraid to get the help that they need. I am praying, that gone are the days when we go about our merry little lives and forget that there are others around and check on them and make sure they are okay. Gone of the days of selfishness and struggling and suffering in silence. I pray and end to it! Amen!

The bottom line to this lesson for me was that I have to keep working my process. There’s no such thing as an “end” to your journey as long as you are alive. That applies to just life in general. We should all be seeking to be better. Better humans. Better parents. Better workers. Better business men/women. Better spouses. Etcetera.

So what if you have certain precautions that you need to take to ensure that you take care of your mental health? Maybe there are certain things you can’t watch. Maybe there are certain conversations you can’t have. Maybe there’s a certain amount of time you need to spend outdoors (I know it’s hot, lol). Maybe, just maybe, you will have to let your guard down and lay your pride aside and tell your friends or family, “Hey, I’m hurting. Can you help me?” You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Me? I just want you to live…and have joy. And peace. And success. And happiness. And wholeness. And laughter. And love. And healthy self-esteem. And healthy relationships. And whatever it is that you once dreamed about and thought that it was not possible anymore.

Prayer for today:

Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray for every person reading this blog. I pray that something I say blesses them and helps them. I pray for their mental health and stability. I pray that they open up just enough to let someone into their lives and that they will allow their community to love them and care about them. I pray that you would partner them with the right doctors and/or counselors that will help them on their journey to healing and wholeness. Whatever is causing you sadness, depression, anxiety, etc., I pray that you will find strength and courage to reach out for help – – and receive the help once you have it. I pray that you will not feel shame or condemnation for needing the help. I pray that you are kind to yourself as you walk this journey to healing and wholeness.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


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