Well, Overcomers, it’s Friday!!! We made it!
I want to talk to those who support those who are dealing with depression, anxiety, bipolar, cutting, etc. First, I want to say thank you. I know this is not easy for you. For those of us in the struggle, we thank you. I want to offer a few tips as you go forward in your support.
First, please take care of yourself. It can be easy to become overwhelmed when dealing with those of us with mental health issues. Make sure you are maintaining self care. You can’t change us. It’s not your fault. Please don’t take this personal.
Second, find out how you can best serve your friend/family by asking them, “What does my support look like to you?” I feel this is important because support for one person may not feel supportive to another. This way, your efforts won’t be unfruitful.
For example, I am a cutter. A friend asked me two important questions, “How can I support you? Can you promise to call/text me before you cut again?” This works for me because of my personality. If someone calls me to task or holds me accountable, what I don’t want to do is have to look them in the eye and say that I didn’t meet my end of the agreement. I’m not saying I’ve always been successful, but what I am saying is that community is important. This strategy has worked more often than not.
Thought for today:
For those of you who support people like me: Thank you. We don’t say it enough, but we are thankful. Dealing with mental illness is a daily struggle and an uphill climb. For every successful day and for every act of support: THANK YOU!!!!